If you hate others and you are getting angry too often, the reason is that you actually hate yourself and you are angry on yourself.
Sounds illogical!
How can we hate ourselves?
The fact is that most people hate themselves. Let me list some of the reasons
- You are overweight and you desire to lose weight. You can’t stop temptation to eat high calorie food in excess quality. You are always cursing yourself after eating.
- You want to get top position in your college but your mind is always diverted. It does not allow you to concentrate. As a result you perform poorly. You are angry with yourself.
- You want your dream job but you don’t feel like studying despite all your desires. You curse yourself for it.
- You have high ideals for yourself. You want to become great like Vivekananda or Narayana Murthy. However, you are driven by your passion and lust, which always spoils all your dream.
- You love a girl (or a boy), who does not reciprocate your love and repeatedly insult you. However, you are still running after her as you are unable to forget her. You curse your heart for not listening to your mind.
I can list a large number of reasons why we hate ourselves. The cause of this hatred is
- We have conflicting desires which can’t be fulfilled
- We have high ideals that can’t be achieved
- We overestimate our abilities
- We are chasing false goals in life
- You are in a wrong profession
- You are doing something which you don’t want to do
- You are unable to do what you wish to do
All the inner conflict gets reflected in our outer behavior.
When we hate ourselves, we can’t love others.
You can give others only what you have inside.
We hate others to justify our own hatred inside.
Because you don’t want to blame yourself for your problem, you choose other people to be blamed for your problems. You want to have some scapegoat on whom you can throw all your responsibilities.
- You blame the fast food companies for producing harmful foods
- You blame the media for spreading hatred
- You blame your parents for not giving you right guidance and support for your success
- You blame your friends for misguiding you
- You blame your relatives for humiliating you
- You blame your country for not giving you the right opportunities
It does not matter how much you blame them, you can’t solve your problem because the problem is within you and not outside. So you blame them even more and even start hating them since they don’t help you or change as you desire.
You have to take care of your inner contradictions and conflicts to find a peaceful world outside.
Once that is done, you will have peace in your life and you would have no complaints against anyone including yourself.
You will naturally accept people as they are when you accept yourself as you are.
