I made one tweak that helped me connect with people like nothing else.
Without saying a word.
People talk about the importance of body language all of the time - of standing in a confident posture, wide feet set apart, etc. Yes, this posture makes you more confident. Yes, it is associated with confidence and higher self-esteem. That's undebatable.
But communication isn't a pissing contest. It isn't about who is more confident. Maybe in a fraction of conversations with people, it helps you if the other person feels your confidence radiating, but at the same time, there is one fundamental thing lacking when people talk about body language.
It doesn't facilitate connection.
That's right, being more confident doesn't help you on a base level connect with people. But there is something you can do with your body that will. And it's easy. And in thirty days you will notice that your interactions with people will completely change. I'm talking about conversations with friends, coworkers, taxi drivers, servers, acquaintances. Pretty much everyone.
And it's this easy.
Touch people more.
When you have to say something to someone, put your hand on their shoulder. When driving a point home, push your index finger on their chest. When saying goodbye, put your hand on their back and say it.
If you're in a place and trying to talk to a significant other/romantic interest, grab their neck around your elbow and say something in their ear. If you agree with someone's point, use your hands to touch theirs when you say that you agree.
These little things help you establish a deep, almost subconscious connection with people THAT EVEN YOU CAN'T HELP when you do it. If you do it for thirty days, your relationships will change. You'll become more magnetic. People will be more drawn to you. You will make better friends with pretty much everyone (and make friends incredibly easy at that), and your existing relationships will deepen.
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